Understanding your boundaries

 

Every time you are unhappy or miserable, you are just coming in touch with your own boundaries. And what can you do? You can just feel thankful: “Oh, I came in touch with my boundary, my limitation. This was my limitation.”

You just turn the whole situation into prayer: “Let there be peace, not just in me but in everybody.” Prayer is that moment when you come in touch with your limitations, your boundaries.

You are peaceful, you are joyful, you are happy as long as you have not come in contact with your boundaries. The moment that you do, what can you do? You can just say, “My Lord, My God, you have made me become aware of my boundaries. You bring peace. I am giving it all to You.”

That very moment you will start smiling. However hopeless the situation is, you will walk through it, sing through it, dance through it. This is love.

In Hindi, love is written with two-and-a-half letters. They say, “Who is a master, who is a pundit, who is a wise person? Not one who has studied a lot of scriptures, but one who has studied the two-and-a-half letters.”

It is a test of the moment, when you come in touch with your limitations, your boundaries. You are happy, peaceful. Are you in the boundaries? Or are you maintaining your boundless self and the innocent love in the heart? Is it remaining? If it is, then nothing can rob you of peace.

There is no point in resisting change

 

Sorrow simply means that ‘viveka’ (discrimination) is overshadowed. Viveka means knowing that everything is changing. Your body, your emotions, the people around you and the world – everything is changing.

Time and again you have to awaken to this reality. You are often fearful of change. Change is inevitable on many fronts, though security is hooked on to stability. You know there is a need for change to improve your life, but you feel secure in the old pattern.  

You need the courage to implement changes wherever it is necessary. You have to evaluate the pros and the cons. You have to see whether something gives you short-term joy and misery in the long run or short-time pain and joy in the long run. 

Life is a combination of both change and non-change. So, use your intelligence and courageously implement changes when you feel that there is a need for change.