Lust is one such distortion of love. Lust can be got rid of through the light of pragmatic knowledge, lust means wanting to grab or possess something and it enters your life because you have lost the tendency to give the tendency to love when love is at an all-time low, then lust climbs higher when love is at the top, then lust diminishes. Love is to have the sincere feeling. I'm here for you. Lust is the feeling - "What can I get from you?"
Lust has created humongous problems in the world, and many crimes have happened or are happening today because of uncontrolled lust. It has spoiled relationships. One of the reasons for bitterness in the world is the lack of control over oneself. What happens due to a lack of spirituality? The intense joy or pleasure one experiences with your partner can turn bitter and cause heartbreak, if there is no wisdom.
This is what is happening all over, isn't it? Someone has given you intense pleasure and if you have no wisdom, you will find them to be the cause of intense misery also. If you feel miserable, you do not look at the case, you rather point a finger towards the one who has given you physical pleasure. It is wisdom that takes you away from misery. Observing the sensations within you, whether of pain or pleasure, offers a different view altogether about the entire phenomenon.
How to deal with lust? Through higher fulfilment. For example, kids crave for cotton, candy and chocolates. But when they grow up, they automatically have no such cravings. Similarly, having a higher goal in life will help when you have a lot of work to do. Sex doesn't bother you at that time.
Just ask any student if he or she is bombarded with thoughts of sex during exam time. They'll say no. For that whole month, when they have to achieve something, their mind is fully focused on it. Not once does the thought arise during exam time. They have a bundle of books to read and prepare. So engaging yourself in some creative activity is helpful.
Pleasure always makes you run towards it first and then later on makes you run away from it. That is its nature. First, you crave for it, you go towards it and then later on, you go away from it, because it becomes too much to handle.
Yoga is that which makes you centered. It stabilizes you. When you are stable and centered, if there is pleasure you enjoy it, if it's not there, you don't mind it. It's not occupying your mind, 24*7. It's not a craving that bothers you.
The more you indulge in lust, the more the stimuli. With excess stimulation, your head becomes hot and your vision blurred. This directly affects your perception, making it blurred too. People should stop watching pornography, thinking about sex and watching it all the time really destroys the instrument called the brain at the same time.
You shouldn't blame sex. It's a natural phenomenon and all living beings originate from it. Your origin is sex, but let it not be your death too. If one is promiscuous, their death will also be sex. It's just a part of life and should be treated so. Being very natural and moderate with sex is the key.
