Commitment vs convenience

 

What should you do if your commitment is boring? Commitment has value when things are not so charming. When things are interesting you do not need commitment at all. You never say you are committed to doing something that is very interesting or charming.


A commitment can only be felt when it oversteps convenience. When something is convenient, it is not called commitment. If you are driven by your convenience, your commitment falls apart causing more inconvenience! 


If you keep dropping your commitment because it is inconvenient, can you be comfortable? Often what is convenient does not bring comfort but just gives an illusion of comfort. Also if you are too stuck in commitment, and it is inconvenient too often, you will be unable to fulfill your commitment and it will only generate frustration. 


Wisdom is to strike a balance between convenience and commitment because both bring comfort to the body, mind and spirit. A seeker of knowledge should forget about convenience, as should soldiers, rulers, students, seekers of wealth and all essential service providers. Those who want to be creative and adventurous need to transcend convenience. Those who are ambitious and have a passion for a goal will not care for convenience.


Commitment is comfort to the wise. Whenever their commitment is shaken, their comfort is also shaken. To the lazy, commitment is torture though it is their best remedy. In the long run, commitment will always bring comfort.


Are there any commitments that can be given up? Yes. Sometimes when you make a commitment without a vision, you feel stifled when your vision expands. Such commitments made with shortsightedness can be given up. A smaller, less important commitment can be given up for a greater commitment. Commitment to the means can be given up for the sake of a commitment to the goals. When in the long run, your commitment brings misery to many it can be given up.

The actions that can take you to infinity

 

What can you do for eternity? You definitely cannot do anything that is big or great because that requires effort and effort tires you. So, doing something great is a temporary state. If you can think of one thing that is far beneath your capacity and agree to do it for eternity, that becomes puja. 


The willingness to consciously do trivial things for eternity unites you with eternity. This is an antidote to ego. Ego is always ambitious and strives to do the toughest job, like climbing Mount Everest. Simple acts like watching a butterfly, watering the garden, observing the sky can bring deep relaxation, and relaxation connects you with your source. This does not mean that you should do trivial things all your life, but consciously agreeing to do trivial acts for eternity opens a new dimension and brings immense peace and restfulness


To find rest in activity, choose an activity that is far below your capacity and agree to do it for eternity. Doing a job far below your capacity and being satisfied, will then make it possible to do a job much beyond your capacity. 


Know that all actions are born out of infinity and that which is born out of infinity can take you to infinity.

There is only one way to experience real pleasure

 

There is pleasure in rest and pleasure in activity. The pleasure in activity is momentary and causes fatigue while the pleasure in rest is magnanimous and energizing. 


So, to the one who has tasted pleasure in rest (samadhi), the pleasure in activity is insignificant. All activities that you do, you do so that you can have deep rest. Activity is part of the system.


However, the real pleasure is in samadhi. In order to have deep rest one must be active. The proper balance of both is essential. 


Many seek pleasure in this or that, but the wise man just smiles. The real rest is only in knowledge.

Don't be friendly, at times

 

Secretaries, police, judges, accountants and people in key positions should not be friendly! The disadvantages of being friendly are:

  • You come under some sort of obligation. 
  • You lose your freedom. 
  • You become prone to picking up bad habits and negative moods. 
  • Your perception cannot be free and fair. Your thoughts and actions may not be impartial. 
  • Your focus, commitment, creativity and above all, your time will be wasted. 


It takes much wisdom to be free from the burden of obligation and not be influenced by your friends’ opinions and feelings. On many occasions, it is better to be unfriendly than friendly. 


Being unfriendly does not mean being aggressive and inimical. The best secretaries, personal assistants, security personnel and judges have to be unfriendly. Those who are aloof and indifferent get centered more quickly than those who are too friendly. A certain degree of aloofness in every relationship will strengthen your personality and connect you to your source. It is easy to be aloof or unfriendly. But to be friendly and aloof is sadhana. 


Why focus only on the important?

 

So many people are stuck with what is “important.” They are always caught up in thinking about what is important. Why must you only do what is important? When you say something is important, you are limiting your vastness. 


For something to be important, many things must be unimportant, so you cannot eliminate unimportant things. It is important to have unimportant things to make something else important. 


Things are either themselves important or they make other things important. So that means everything is important, and... everything is unimportant. When you realize this fact, you have no more choices to make. 


A journalist once asked me, “Why is it important to breathe?” “Why is it important to be happy?” “Why is it important to have peace?” These questions are not relevant at all. Why should you always look for what is important? Something that is unimportant can contribute to something that is important. And what is important and unimportant changes with time and space. Food is important when you are hungry and unimportant when you are full. 


When something is inevitable, you do not categorize it as important or unimportant. It is beyond choice. “Everything is important” is karma yoga. “Nothing is important” is deep meditation.

Seven principles to effectively build teams and organizations

 

Knowledge has organizing power. Only knowledge can organize. The more steeped you are in knowledge, the better you can organize. 


These seven principles will make you effective and will build a strong team, within any organization:

  • Never underestimate your organization. If you underestimate your organization, you will not be able to build it.


  • Defend your intentions, not your actions. Often people defend their actions and lose sight of their intentions. Then they feel sorry and weak. There is no need to feel sorry. Defend your intention to do right.

  • Teamwork. With teamwork you achieve more than you do individually. Some work is best done alone and other work is best done with a team. Find the balance between walking alone and working with a team. In either case, alone or with a team, you will face obstacles. For your growth, both are essential. Each has its disadvantages and advantages. Drop either one, and you will be at a loss. The skill is not to have an aversion to either and to focus on the goal. 

  • Not defending friends. Suppose you have introduced a friend to a job and they make a mistake. Do not try to defend them. That is where the team breaks up. When you defend a friend, you are not friendly to everybody. Defending someone’s mistakes does not do justice to the team and stops the person from learning. Soft-heartedness and compassion in an organization can be detrimental to both the teamwork and the organization. 

  • Never justify a mistake with intimidation or logic. Raising your voice, intimidation, anger, shouting, and applying erroneous logic make a wrong appear right. Someone may do something wrong, but with shouting he makes the wrong appear right. Raising your voice and asserting through intimidation may make a wrong appear right. Do not give in to that. Do not give into aggression, intimidation, wrong logic and soft-heartedness. 

  • Volunteers often act as though everyone is a boss and not a worker. When working with such volunteers, be calm and quiet. Ask, “Have you finished your work?” 

  • Solutions will always be ad hoc. The more dynamic an institution is, the more the solutions will be ad hoc. It’s not like a nine-to-five company job where roles are designed and planned for a year. With volunteers, the productivity is more intense. The more dynamic a group, the quicker things happen. Maintaining a margin for confusion and chaos can prevent stress.


Know the different types of seva

 

There are five types of seva (service). 


The first type is the seva done when you do not even know that you are doing it. You do not recognize it as seva because it is your very nature – you cannot help doing it! 


The second type is the seva that you do because it is needed for that situation. 


The third type of seva is done because it gives you joy. 


The fourth type is done out of your desire for merit – you do seva expecting some benefit in the future. 


And the fifth type is when you do seva just to show off, to improve your image and to gain social or political recognition. Such seva is simply exhausting, while the first type does not bring any tiredness at all! To improve the quality of your seva, regardless of where you start, you must move up to the higher levels.


Freedom does not come from working by yourself

 

Many people do not want to work under someone else, be it in their profession, in a company, or even as a volunteer. The notion is that when you work under someone, you lose your freedom and you have to be accountable for your work. 


Thus many people opt for their own business, wanting to be their own boss. But in your own business, you are accountable to so many people. If you cannot be accountable to even one person, how can you be accountable to many? This is the paradox. In fact, having your own business binds you more than having a boss! 


Refusing to work under someone is a sign of weakness, not strength. A strong person feels comfortable working under anyone, because he knows his strength. It is the weak and poor in spirit who do not like to work under someone else because they are unaware of their strength. They cannot be successful in business or in any profession. Even working under a wise person, those who are timid and weak in spirit will be uncomfortable. But those who know their strength, effectively work even under a fool! 


The same applies to volunteers. Often volunteers do not want to work under someone else, but this merely demonstrates their weakness. With such an attitude, they achieve very little. 


How does one deal with the frustration of working under a fool? When you know your strength, with skill and intelligence you can turn every disadvantage into an advantage. A fool can bring out the best in your communication skills! 


So watch out! If you feel uncomfortable working under someone, it clearly shows you need to strengthen yourself. Desiring freedom from circumstances, situations or people is not freedom at all. Knowing that nobody can take away your freedom – that is strength. And when you realize your strength is unshakable, you will be able to work under anyone.

Being a true volunteer

 

Who is a volunteer? A volunteer is someone who comes to help without being asked. Someone who is self-motivated and inspired becomes a volunteer. 


It is possible for a volunteer’s inspirational motivation to diminish, which can bring frustration. Usually a volunteer’s attitude comes from demand rather than humility, and this dilutes the quality of the service. 


Another downfall for volunteers is that they slip away from commitment, thinking there is no “boss,” thinking, “If I like it, I’ll do it; if I don’t like it, I won’t do it!” It is like the steering wheel of a car – if all the tires say they do not need to be steered, then the car cannot move forward. If you want to construct a building, you have to accept the authority of the structural engineer, the “boss.” 


All these problems can be overcome only by being more grounded in spiritual knowledge. A volunteer devoid of spirituality is utterly weak. 


The following guidelines are essential to be a true volunteer:

  • A volunteer needs to remain faithful to his commitment. 
  • The integrity of a volunteer comes from his spiritual practices. A volunteer must accept the leader of the project. 
  • The strength of a volunteer is based on the challenges he is ready and willing to face. 
  • A volunteer moves beyond boundaries when he finds he is capable of doing so much more than he ever thought of doing. 
  • A true volunteer does not expect appreciation or reward and he who thinks he is obliging someone is thoroughly mistaken. 


A person volunteers because he derives joy from it. That joy itself is the reward, and it is immediate. It does not come on the first of every month in the form of a salary. When a volunteer realizes this, he is filled with gratitude. When a volunteer waivers from within, his support is knowledge and good friends.

There will be no contentment through pleasure

 

God created humanity and the whole world with so many different varieties, so many good things. God made so many types of vegetables and fragrances, flowers and thorns, dragons and horrors, to please humans and to keep them entertained. But humanity became more and more depressed. 


Then God acted tough and humans had to start pleasing Him. So humans kept themselves busy pleasing God and they became happier since they had no time to get worried or depressed. When you have someone to please, it keeps you on your toes and you are happier. But if your goal is just to please yourself, depression is sure to follow


Pleasure simply brings more craving but the problem is that we try to get contentment through pleasure. True contentment can only come through service.

Accept your own ignorance about your capabilities

 

Always know that the Divine never gives you a responsibility you cannot fulfill. No one ever expects you to treat them if you are not a doctor. No one will ask you to fix their wiring system if you are not an electrician. 


Remember:

  • Your responsibility is only what you can do. 
  • And you do not know what you can do. 
  • Always accept that you do not know what you can do. 
  • Ignorance of your capability can expand you. 


When you know what you can do, you can progress. But when you do not know what you can do, you can grow by leaps and bounds. When you know what you can do, you can do things. When you do not know what you can do, you can do things even better!

Whether your time is good or bad, is in your hands

 

People who are willing to do seva, service, will have good times even in the bad times. When there are problems, such as famine or war, Red Cross people are fine as they are serving. The more relief they bring, the happier they feel. And people who are selfish and who just want to enjoy themselves will be miserable even in good times.


Often the organizers of a party do not enjoy the party because some little thing is missing, they forgot to invite somebody, somebody did not come, or some little thing went wrong. 


A wise one is happy even in bad times. And the ignorant one is unhappy even in good times. You make time good or bad. People usually blame bad time and just wait for good time.


Even if an astrologer says that you are in a hopeless time, you can still make it a good time! Like weather, time has its impact on you. Your satsang and sadhana are your shield, your protection. 


So realize that you are more than time and that you can change the time by your connection to the Divine.


When you get the worst of the lot, be grateful

 

Suppose the worst of the world is given to you; what would you do with it? You cannot complain if you get the worst. You can only complain if you do not get the worst. 


If the world is at its worst, then it can only get better and you are here to make it better. 


What happens when you have to do it all by yourself, when no one helps? Your options are to be frustrated and complain; to take credit that you did it by yourself and thank others for not helping so that you could take all the credit. To be grateful, pray deeply, and know that you got all the strength needed to do it alone.


Know that there is only one doer.

Belongingness changes your perspective

 

Whether you win or lose an argument with your Guru, your Master, you still laugh. 


Normally what happens to you when you lose an argument? You are sad and upset, hurt and angry. But when you lose or win an argument with me, you are still happy. Why? 


Because you have a total sense of belongingness; your love is more important than perfection, comfort and desires; you are able to put your Being before a happening; and you have confidence in the ultimate good. 


When there is a total sense of belongingness, real play happens. Winning or losing is irrelevant. Can you have this same attitude with everyone?

Appreciating the beauty of this creation

 

One who is not amazed by the magnificence of this creation – his eyes are not yet opened. Once your eyes are open, they close, and this is called meditation. 


Tell me, what in this creation is not a mystery? Birth is a mystery; death is a mystery. If both birth and death are mysteries, then life is certainly a greater mystery, isn’t it? Being completely immersed in the mystery of life and in this creation is samadhi. 


Your knowing or believing does not really matter to what Is. This creation is an unfathomable secret and its mysteries only deepen. Getting steeped in mystery is devotion. 


The “scene” is a mystery; the “seer” is a mystery. Deepening the mystery of creation is science. Deepening the mystery of the Self is spirituality. They are the two sides of the same coin. If neither science nor spirituality can create wonder and devotion in you, then you are in deep slumber.

Love (is an extension of) thy Self

 

When you love something, you have a sense of belongingness with it. You can only love something when it belongs to you. If it is not yours, you cannot love it. 


Love is the shadow of the Self. The bigger the Self, the bigger the shadow and the bigger the love. 


When love is cast over all of creation, then you are the Big Self. That is Lordship. When Lordship dawns in the Self, there is perennial celebration.

Learning the path to yourself

 

Become God to each other. Do not look for God somewhere in the sky, but see God in every pair of eyes, in the mountains, in water, in trees and in animals. How? Only when you see God in yourself will this happen. Only God can worship God. 


To recognize Divinity, there are three dimensions – time, space and mind. For seekers, it is necessary to honor time and space so they can experience sacredness in their minds. When you honor time and space, your mind becomes alert. But for the one who has transcended the mind, either sacredness has no meaning or all times, every place and every mood is sacred. 


Precious moments are few in life. Catch them and treasure them. Place, time and the mood of your mind are factors that influence celebration. Snatch every opportunity to celebrate. Then you will feel great and full. Then celebration infiltrates your mind in all moods and space, and celebration is inevitable. 


Celebration reminds you of the fullness of the moment. The moments spent in the company of knowledge – the master – are the most precious moments in your life. Treasure them. Treasuring them, you transcend the mind, time and space. That is true celebration.

Decoding the love-truth paradox

 

Why would someone tell a lie to their dear ones or to their beloved? This is a question often asked by lovers. Love cannot stand untruth; it causes relationships to fall apart. The answer lies in understanding the paradox of love and truth.


People tell lies just to save and maintain their love. Lies are a result of fear that the truth might damage the love between husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, parents and children. 


In love you feel weak but truth brings strength. So why do people prefer love over truth, weakness over strength? No one wants to sacrifice love. Thus people are ready to give up the truth for their love. Love takes the luster out of truth. Sometimes truth can make love bitter; while in love, even lies can appear sweet, like Krishna’s lies to his mother, Yashoda. 


The truth that does not nourish love makes no sense and the love that cannot withstand the truth is not true love. When you are assured that your love is so strong that the truth can neither break it nor cause bitterness, then the truth prevails and love shines. 


With truth there are judgments, but true love is beyond judgments. Thus true love makes you weak and yet it is the greatest strength.

Complementary nature of faith and alertness

 

Faith and alertness appear to be completely opposite in nature. When you are alert, there is usually no faith and you feel restless and insecure. When you have faith, your mind is in a restful state and you feel secure, so you are not alert. 


There are three types of faith. Tamasic faith is caused by dullness. For example, when you do not want to take responsibility or action and you say, “Oh, it doesn’t matter, God will take care of all these things!” 


Rajasic faith is brought on by an intense compulsion of desires and ambition. The ambition keeps your faith alive. 


Satvic faith is innocent and is born out of fullness of consciousness.


Faith and alertness, though apparently opposite in nature, are actually complementary to each other. In the absence of faith there can be no growth and without alertness there can be no correct understanding. Faith can make you complacent while alertness makes you tense. If there is no faith, there is fear. And when there is no alertness, you cannot perceive or express properly, so a combination of both is essential. 


In jnana – state of wisdom – there is alertness without tension and faith without complacency. The purpose of education should be to remove the element of dullness from faith and the element of fear from alertness. This is a unique and rare combination. If you have faith and alertness at the same time, then you will become a true jnani – a wise one.

Is it possible to control daydreams?

 

Can one control daydreams? What is daydreaming? 


Daydreaming is simply when you have a desire, but you do not have the faith that you can achieve it. You can control daydreaming by having a strong goal and believing in it. 


Like the scientist who wanted to go to the moon and kept dreaming about it – for him it was the goal of his life but for others it was just a daydream. You either drop the idea that your dream will happen, or you believe it will. 


When you do not know yourself – your true potential – you have no faith or confidence in your dreams. Once you have faith and confidence in your dreams, they are no longer daydreams.

Have "faith" in "reason" - the two work hand-in-hand

 

Reason is constrained in the known, faith is moving in the unknown.

Reason is repetition, faith is exploration. 

Reason is routine, faith is adventure. 

Reason and faith are completely opposite, yet they are both integral parts of life.


Not having faith is itself misery; faith gives instant comfort. While reason keeps you sane and grounded, no miracle can happen without faith. Faith takes you beyond limitations. In faith you can transcend the laws of nature, but it needs to be pure.


Faith is beyond reason, yet you need to have faith in your own reasoning! Faith and reason cannot exist without each other. Every reason is based on some faith. Whenever reason or faith break down, confusion and chaos prevail – and this is often a step towards growth.


There are two types of faith - faith that is born out of fear, greed and insecurity, and faith born out of love like the faith between the mother and child or the master and disciple. While the faith that is born of love cannot be broken, the faith that comes out of fear and greed is shaky.


An atheist bases himself on reason, and a believer bases himself on faith. An atheist rationalizes to keep his eyes shut to reality. A believer uses God as an insurance policy he thinks makes him special. But in the eyes of God there is no “mine” and “others” – all are the same.


Death shakes them both! When someone close dies, the eyes of an atheist are opened, and a believer’s faith cracks. Only a Yogi – a wise one remains unshaken, for that person has transcended both reason and faith. You need to balance faith and reason.

Dispassion and enthusiasm - anything but opposites

 

What is enthusiasm? Enthusiasm means to be connected to God within. When you are with your source, you can only be enthusiastic and you cannot be anything but enthusiastic when your mind is totally in the present moment. 


Apathy is when you are away from the source of life. You should know that dispassion is not apathy; it is simply a broader perspective of reality. Dispassion is moving towards the source. Dispassion simply means the way back home. It is the journey towards the source, which is a reservoir of enthusiasm.


When dispassion and enthusiasm co-exist, that is the secret of perennial enthusiasm and profound dispassion. Though they appear to be opposite, they are actually complementary.


Sanyas means what? “I am nothing and I want nothing,” or “I am everything and I have everything.” It is being either colorless or multicolored.

Do not misuse knowledge

 

Do not use dispassion to push away the fire of longing for the Divine or for satsang. There is a little fire in you that propels you toward knowledge, sadhana, devotion and service but sometimes you use knowledge to put out that fire.


So-called dispassionate people are often morose and unenthusiastic. Often you will hear people say, “Oh, never mind, God is everywhere, Guruji is in my heart, I can do satsang anywhere. My seva is my sadhana, so there is no need to meditate. Anyway I am doing sadhana twenty-four hours a day. When God wills, He will call me to satsang and Advanced Courses again.” 


Such excuses should not be justified as dispassion. When you want to do some service, the mind says, “Oh, it is all maya anyway; everything is an illusion. It is all just happening. Things will happen when the time comes.” In this way knowledge gets misused and is quoted out of context to suit one’s convenience or laziness. 


When you use knowledge like this you miss a lot. This is when dispassion is detrimental. In the name of dispassion do not lose that spark of enthusiasm and interest. Keep alive the fire of longing for the Divine and for service to society.

So you think there can be no glory in dispassion? You're wrong

 

It is often believed that glory and dispassion are contradictory and cannot co-exist. Glory and luxury without dispassion is a nauseating pomp and show. Such glory does not bring fulfillment for anyone; it is shallow.


Alternatively, the dispassion that is afraid of glory is weak. True dispassion is oblivious to glory. The glory that comes with dispassion is something that is true; it is permanent and authentic. When someone chases after glory, they are shallow. Movie stars, politicians and religious leaders who try to hold on to their status, to their glory, are certain to lose it. If you run after glory, all that you get is misery. 


When you are dispassionate, glory comes to you. If you are afraid of glory, that means you are not well grounded in dispassion. In India the sadhus (ascetics) run away from glory. They think they will lose their dispassion and get trapped in the web of the world, in the circus. Their dispassion is so blissful that they get attached to it. They are afraid of losing their dispassion, the centeredness and the bliss that comes with it. This is weak dispassion.


Dispassion is a state of being and glory is the happening around it. True dispassion can never be lost or overshadowed by glory. True dispassion is glorious. Real glory is true dispassion.

What exactly is life?

 

Often when you are happy you feel life is a dream because you do not believe it is real. When there is misery you feel life is a burden, and sometimes your misery is because you take trivial things too seriously. But if you have really gone through pleasure, you realize that pleasure is a burden, and if you have thoroughly undergone misery, you realize that life is a dream.


When you realize that you have been carried through every miserable situation, then you know life is a dream. And in between the pleasure and the pain, life is all a joke. Life is very uncertain. Before it takes you away, realize it is a dream, a burden or a joke. 


What about life is a joke? You do not question a joke. If you question a joke, it is no longer a joke. Do not question a burden either. It is a waste of time to question life and its events. 


A burden makes you go deep. It takes you to the core of yourself. Awareness of dreaming wakes you up and seeing life as a joke makes you light. The only certainty is that life is a dream, a burden or a joke, and only when you realize this can you be centered.

How a combination of passion and dispassion takes place

 

Passion makes you weak. Dispassion is strength.


For your passion to be fulfilled, you must depend upon so many things. Passion and self-reliance do not go together. If you are passionate, you need to forget about being self-reliant. If you want to be self-reliant, you must drop your passion.


Your spirit is what brings together these two completely different aspects in you. The same spirit that wants self-reliance is also passionate. It is only in spirituality that passion and dispassion can happen together. This combination is the rarest.


When you are dispassionate, you have strength, and strength is self-reliance. True self-reliance is realizing that nothing is excluded from the Self. And when you realize everything is part of the Self, then you can be passionate about everything.


To fulfill your passion, you need to rely only on the Self, for Self alone is non-changing. In truth, there is neither reliance nor passion. Usually, you are either passionate or self-reliant. But in an elevated state of consciousness, you can be neither, or both.


How to lose your dispassion

 

There are three types of dispassion. 


The first type is the dispassion that arises when you realize the misery in the world and you fear misery. The events in life – the pain and suffering you experience or see – bring dispassion. 


The second type of dispassion is born out of your desire to achieve something higher. Some consider dispassion as a path to enlightenment – by renouncing something here they hope to gain something out there. They engage in austerities and take vows to have a better place in heaven. 


The third type of dispassion comes from wisdom or knowledge. A broader understanding of the transient nature of things cultures a state of non-attachment to events, objects, people, or situations, and this lets you remain calm and unperturbed. 


Divine love does not let dispassion manifest. The attainment of love brings such bliss and such intoxication that it not only takes away your passion, but dispassion as well.

Effortless perfection

 

In a state of ignorance, imperfection is natural and perfection is an effort. In a state of wisdom or enlightenment, imperfection is an effort but perfection is a compulsion and is unavoidable. 


Perfection means taking total responsibility, and total responsibility means knowing that you are the only responsible person in the whole world. When you think that others are responsible, then your degree of responsibility diminishes. 


When you are in total vairagya – dispassion – you take care of even trivial and insignificant things with such perfection. For example, during every morning puja, decorates the puja table with such great care, choosing flowers in different color combinations and patterns every day, fully knowing that the decoration will not last even ten minutes! Attention to such a trivial thing with such keen awareness can only come through utter dispassion.


Perfection is the very nature of the enlightened one.

Just "be", but don't be lazy

 

Just Be

Joy is dissolving... losing your identity.

Rest is dissolving... losing your identity. 

Love is dissolving... losing your identity. 

Relax and just be. 

That does not mean be lazy... No! Be very busy... and just be. 


Events come and go, they perish like flowers. But every event and every person contains some honey. Like a bee, just take the honey out of every event and every moment and move on. Be like a busy bee and be in the Being. 


If you ask me, what is the nectar of life, the answer is, the Infinity...the Divinity.

Connection between love and authority - II

 

Usually, where there is aishwarya – lordship – there is no madhurya – sweetness – and where there is madhurya, there is no aishwarya. Where life has blossomed fully, there is both. Aishwarya means ishwaratva – lordship of that which “Is.” Wealth is also referred to as aishwarya, because wealth commands a certain amount of authority. 


Can love and authority co-exist? Only in a fully blossomed Being is there both lordship and sweetness. There was aishwarya in Sri Rama, but only glimpses of madhurya. In Parshuram’s life there was only lordship, but no madhurya. Buddha manifested more madhurya – the sweetness – and less authority. 


But Krishna manifested both and so did Jesus. There was lordship when they said, “I am the way,” and there was sweetness in their expressions of prayer and love. I am the valentine of the whole world and I reside in every heart. If you are my valentine, you will see me everywhere. Have the same love for everyone, but with different flavors. You cannot behave the same way with everyone, but you can love all of them the same. Love transcends behavior and etiquette. 


In a congregation, when asked, “How many of you feel strong?”, many people raised their hands. When asked, “Why?” they responded “Because you are with us.” Only those who feel weak can surrender. All those who were feeling strong were taken aback; suddenly they felt weak! If you are in love, you feel weak because love makes you weak. Yet there is no power stronger than love. Love is strength. Love is the greatest power on earth. You feel absolutely powerful when you are with the Divine.


Yet we keep alternating between strength and weakness. That is the fluctuation in life. When you feel weak – surrender. When you feel strong – do seva.

Connection between love and authority - I

 

Love and authority are totally opposite values, yet they coexist. 


The grosser the consciousness, the more pronounced must be authority. The more refined and subtle the consciousness, the less need to exercise authority. When you are unrefined, you demand authority and when you demand authority, love recedes. 


Asserting authority indicates a lack of confidence and love. The more evident one’s authority, the less sensitive and effective it will be. A sensible person will not demand authority at all but will assume it. The most effective business leaders will not impose their authority, will not make you feel it, for authority can never bring inspiration. 


Your sincere servant has more authority over you than your boss. A baby has full authority over his mother. Similarly, a devotee has complete authority over the Divine, though he never exercises it. Remember that:

  • The less love you have, the more pronounced will be your authority. 
  • The greater your love, the subtler will be your authority. 
  • The subtler you become, the more authority you gain. 

Transcending karma

 

Action comes out of conscious decision. Reaction comes out of impulsiveness. Impulsiveness creates a chain of karma. 


Reaction and non-action both create karma, but conscious action transcends karma. Although conscious action does not create new karma, non-action can. A soldier shooting in war and a policeman using tear gas do not create karma, but a doctor who fails to give medicine to a patient in need incurs karma. 


Through knowledge and devotion, transcend all karma and be free.

Be authentic, skillfully

 

Authenticity and skillfulness appear to be contradictory but in fact they are complementary. Your intentions need to be authentic and your actions need to be skillful. The more authentic the intention, the more skillful the action will be. Authentic intention and skillful action make you unshakable.


Skill is required only when authenticity cannot have its way. Yet skill without authenticity makes you shallow. You cannot have an authentic action and a skillful intention. If you try to be authentic in your action but manipulative in your mind, then that is when mistakes happen.


Now is it possible to have a powerful intention, like greed, that is authentic? If your intention is colored by such emotions as greed or overambition, then your intention is not authentic. Whenever your intentions are impure, it pricks your consciousness, so it cannot be authentic. Authentic intentions are free from negative emotions. An action that is not skillful leads to negative emotions and an intention that is not authentic harbors negative emotions.


The best way to deal with intentions, is tonot keep any sankalpas, or intentions, to yourself. Offer them to the Divine.


Actions can never be perfect, but our intentions can be perfect. Actions always have room for improvement. Action implies growth and movement, and that needs space. The depth in you and the freedom in you bring out all the skillfulness in you. Krishna was the most skillful because his silence was so deep.

What gratitude means, for one on the spiritual path

 

When you are on a spiritual path, you are not thankful or obliged to anyone. In the Bhagvad Gita, Krishna says, “na abhinandati na dveshthi” – he is dear to Me who neither goes on thanking people nor hates anyone. Thanking and feeling obliged indicate that you believe in someone else’s existence rather than in the Divine who rules everything. When you feel obliged, then you are not honoring the principles of karma or the Divine plan. 


Appreciate people for what they are; do not thank them for what they do. Otherwise your thankfulness is centered around ego. Be grateful, but do not be grateful for an act. Be grateful for what is. 


As every individual is nothing but a puppet of the One, thanking and feeling obliged simply demonstrates ignorance. Everything is ruled, controlled and managed by one Divinity. That consciousness has to shine forth in every act of yours; you do not need to make a mood of it. 


So, what should you do when you are grateful to the master? When you have a total sense of belonging, then gratitude does not become an obligation. Such gratitude is for the Divine only and this gratitude enhances your strength.

When you praise, make it count

 

Praising the fool benefits society! 


A fool who is pleased might stop doing harm and start doing useful work. In this sense it is wise to praise a fool; it helps to motivate him. So, your praise is meaningful when it is directed towards a fool. 


A wise man by his nature will continue doing good work because his attitude does not depend on someone’s praise or blame. So, it serves no purpose to praise a wise man because your praise will have no impact on him. 


There are three types of people – the wise, the crooked and the immature. 

The wise man continues doing good work whether he is scolded or praised. 

Crooked people need to be praised to get them to do good work. 

And from time-to-time immature people need to be both praised and scolded for them to do something good.

What does it really mean, to worship?

 

Divinity is unmanifest, but man has an innate desire to perceive the Divine in the manifest creation around him. He creates idols, breathes faith into them and requests Divinity to be present in the idols for awhile so that he can worship, express his love and play with the Divine. At the end of his worship he requests Divinity to go back into his heart from where it manifested. This is in all puja practices. 


People do not actually worship the idols but instead worship the unmanifest Divinity which has all the Divine qualities. So, the idol worshippers of the East are not the same as those described in the Bible, because they are not just worshipping different gods and different idols, they are worshipping the one Divinity in many different forms. 


Paganism, Satanism and animal worship, without the knowledge of the one Divinity, is very different from seeing the Divine in every form of the manifest universe. In the Eastern tradition, gods and goddesses are part of the one Divinity like the different colors of white sunlight, while in the Greek tradition, gods and goddesses are in themselves different and unique entities. 


Worshipping Satan and different entities is completely unlike worshipping Divinity in its various forms. Every form belongs to the Divine. When you adore the form, you adore the Divinity behind the form. With this knowledge, the very act of worship, which is more an inner phenomenon, assumes a more colorful and vibrant expression indicating that both the form and the formless are all Divine.

Why we worship

 

For a flame to rise up, you need space above it. In the same way, for a man to rise up in his life, he needs an ideal, something to adore and worship. In worship, love, honor, respect and a sense of belongingness all come together. However, without a sense of belongingness, worship or idealism can lead to low self-esteem. Ancient people knew this so they insisted that people should feel a part of what they worship. They encouraged people to worship the sun, moon, mountains, rivers, plants, animals and other people. 


Worship is the culmination of love and appreciation. Worship prevents love from turning into hatred or jealousy, and prevents appreciation from becoming low self-esteem. In life, if you do not adore or appreciate anything, you will be filled with negativity; a person who has nothing to worship or adore is sure to fall into depression. 


Lack of adoration has led to many emotional, psychological and social problems in society. If you have nothing to hold high in life, selfishness, arrogance and violence are sure to follow. Adoring and honoring each other in society eliminates stress and fosters compassion and love. 


In the previous century, it was thought that worshipping was an uncivilized and unintelligent thing to do. Worship was thought to rise from a slavish mentality. In fact, it is just the contrary. Worship can only happen through gratefulness and not through subservience. Worship in a true sense is a sign of maturity and not of weakness. 


So, if worship is the culmination of love, does worship also have a culmination? The culmination of worship is self-knowledge, samadhi.

With all due respect - to reverence and adoration

 

Whatever you revere becomes bigger than you. When you have reverence in all your relationships, then your own consciousness expands. Then to you even small things become big and significant. Every little creature becomes dignified. It is the reverence in a relationship that will save it. 


When you have reverence for the whole universe, you are in harmony with the whole universe. And then you do not need to reject or renounce anything. 


You often do not have reverence for what you own and losing that reverence happens unconsciously. Reverence in ownership frees you from greed, jealousy and lust. Cultivate the skill of having reverence every moment of your life. 


Adoration demonstrates the magnanimity of the one who adores, rather than the one who is adored. Adoration is a sign that the ego has become transparent; the best antidote for ego is adoration. 


Adoration works in three ways:

  • For an egoistic person, adulation for someone else is not palatable. If the adoration is for you, it boosts your ego. But if you adore someone else, it dissolves your ego and makes you magnanimous. 
  • Desiring adoration is a sign of immaturity. Aversion to adoration is small-mindedness. A lack of adoration in life is dryness and boredom. 
  • A healthy mind always likes to adore others, elevate them. An unhealthy mind likes to pull everything down.


Adoration indicates the trust, enthusiasm and richness of a culture. Lack of adoration indicates a society that is self-centered, small-minded, fearful and culturally impoverished. 


Adoration does not sway the one who is great. The test of a person’s greatness is that he is not shaken by any amount of adoration. Being indifferent to adoration when it comes to you and being magnanimous in giving it is the way of the wise.

To be enthusiastic or difficult, is your choice and your problem

 

How would you like to see yourself – happy and bubbling with enthusiasm or dull and difficult to please? 


Sometimes you like to be pleased, appeased and cajoled, so you put on a tough, troubled face and act difficult to please. It is so tiring for a person to appease and please ten people all the time. People who keep long faces and expect others to cajole and appease them, drive others away. Lovers often do this. They expend a lot of energy cajoling, reducing the joy and celebration of the moment. 


It is all right to occasionally show how upset you are, but doing it repeatedly is taxing for you and the people you love. If you feel down, appease and please yourself – do not expect others to do it. Your need to be appeased by someone else is a sign of grossness. This is the root of ignorance. If you want attention, all you get is tension. 


It is not possible to attain divine love with a complaining face. The complaining face is a sign of an unaware mind. If you want to complain – complain to God or your guru because both have their ears covered! 


Become one whose enthusiasm never dies, come what may.

It's funny, how humour works

 

Humor is the buffer that saves you from humiliation. If you have a good sense of humour, you can never be humiliated, and if you refuse to be humiliated, you become invincible. 


Humour brings people together while humiliation tears them apart. In a society torn with humiliation and insults, humour is a breath of fresh air. A good sense of humour relieves you from fear and anxiety. 


Humour should be coupled with care and concern. Mere humour, without care and concern or appropriate action, can irritate those who come to you with serious problems. Humour can keep spirits high, yet if overdone it leaves a bad taste. 


Humour with wisdom creates an atmosphere of celebration, but humour without wisdom is shallow. Humour without sensitivity is satire and it comes back to you with more problems. 


The wise use humour to bring wisdom and to lighten every situation. The intelligent use humour as a shield against humiliation. The cruel use humour as a sword to insult others. The irresponsible use humour to escape from responsibility. The fool takes humour too seriously. Humour is spontaneous; to make an effort to be humorous makes no sense! 


How does one cultivate a sense of humour? Humour is not just words; it is the lightness of your being. You can cultivate your sense of humour in many ways, like: 

  • Being cordial and lighthearted brings out authentic humour, while reading and repeating jokes will not. 
  • Do not take life too seriously, because you will never come out of it alive! 
  • Have a sense of belongingness with everybody, including those who are not friendly. 
  • Practice yoga and meditation. 
  • Have unshakable faith in the Divine and in the laws of karma. 
  • Be in the company of those who live in knowledge and who are humorous. 
  • Be willing to be a clown.

How is it possible to be confident, yet humble?

 

One of the rarest character combinations is the coexistence of confidence and humility. Often people who are confident are not humble and people with humility are not confident. Confidence blended with humility is most appreciated by everyone. 


Therefore, how can confidence be developed in one who is humble, and humility in one who is confident? 

First, see your life in the bigger context of time and space and then you will realize your life is nothing. 


Second, those who are humble need to see that they are unique and dear to the Divine. This will bring confidence, and when you realize you are insignificant, that also brings confidence. 


And third, having a guru will give you confidence and will culture humility in you. 


When you have a guru, you cannot be arrogant. The weakness in humility and the arrogance in confidence are removed, and you are left with confidence and humility.

A stranger sense of belongingness

 

A sense of belonging can bring about a host of negative behaviors – demands, jealousy, lack of awareness and ingratitude. Just look at your own life. You are nicer to strangers, feel more grateful to them and give them more attention than to the people you feel “belong” to you. 


A sense of belonging reduces gratefulness and awareness, and gives rise to demands that destroy love. This is the biggest problem in relationships. With a sense of belonging comes a feeling of being carefree and indifferent. Look...belongingness can make you insensitive and dull, and can remove the charm in life. 


In any case, who belongs to whom in this world? You are a stranger here and everyone is a stranger to you. Blessed are those who feel they are strangers. You feel more obligation to a stranger than to a person you feel close to. Obligation is very good at keeping a check on your ego; it makes you humble. There is no greater antidote to ego than humility, and humility is the beginning of all virtues. 


People have such resistance to obligations. They do not realize they are always under obligations, whether giving or taking. Dull people think they are obliged only when they take. Wise people know that even when they are giving they are under obligation, as the person has accepted what they give. So whether you give or take, you are under obligations. And if someone does not give or take, they are still under obligation because they are freeing you from visible obligations – you are obliged even to those who do not make you obliged


Life continually renews itself with you becoming a stranger in this old and familiar world. You are simply loaded with obligations and you are a total stranger in this world at every moment.

How does your ego come in the way of self-esteem?

 

There are two types of respect. The first is respect that comes to you because of your position, fame, or wealth. This type of respect is impermanent. It can be lost once you lose your wealth or status. 


The second type of respect comes because of your smile and your virtues such as honesty, kindness, commitment and patience. This respect no one can take away. 


The less you are attached to your virtues, the more self-respect you have. When you get attached to your virtues, you treat others with disdain and then your virtues start diminishing. Non-attachment to virtues brings the highest self-respect. 


Ego is often confused with self-esteem. Ego needs another for comparison, but self-esteem is just confidence in oneself. For example, a person claiming that (s)he is skilled in mathematics or geography has self-esteem. But to say, “I am more skilled than you,” is ego.


Ego simply means lack of respect for the Self. Your ego will often leave you upset, but if you have self-esteem, you will be unshaken by external factors. In self-respect everything is a game, winning or losing has no meaning, every step is joy and every move is celebration. With self-esteem you simply realize you have it.

Nature of friendship

 

Examine the cause of your friendships. Here are the reasons you make friends:

  • You have common enemies. Fear or a threat to survival brings people together. 
  • You have common problems such as an illness or job dissatisfaction. 
  • You have common job or professional interests. 
  • You have common tastes and interests, such as sports, movies, music and hobbies. 
  • You have compassion or provide service. 
  • You become friends merely because of long-term acquaintance with one another. 


Brave are those who nurture friendships for only friendship’s sake. Such friendships will never die nor become sour for they are born out of your friendly nature, and only through wisdom can you be friendly by nature.

Only a fool is bothered by foolishness

 

What really perturbs you? Is it the foolishness that goes on around you? It is foolish to be perturbed by foolishness. Foolishness cannot overpower or annihilate wisdom nor does foolishness last very long. 


When you are not well grounded in wisdom, then foolishness perturbs you, throws you off balance. When you create space for foolishness, you will not get perturbed by it, rather you will laugh and move on. Otherwise, you get hateful or angry, or become stressed by foolish acts. 


When you know that truth is eternal and invincible, you accept foolishness as a joke and remain unmoved by it. Those who are averse to foolishness or get irritated by it are also members of the fools’ club.

An insight into "ego"

 

Ego is an impediment for a leader, a wise man, a merchant, or a servant, but it is required for a warrior and a competitor. A warrior takes on challenges and commitments and stands by them. 


Ego makes you sacrifice yourself for a cause. Ego gives strength and courage and brings valor to meet challenges with endurance and perseverance. A strong ego will counteract depression. 


Ego is often considered selfish, but it is the greatest motivating factor for creativity and generosity. Ego propels you to venture into the unknown. 


There are three types of ego – sattvic, rajasic and tamasic. Tamasic ego is barbaric, blind and self-destructive. Rajasic ego is self-centered and causes misery to oneself and others. Sattvic ego is creative and has protective tendencies. If you cannot surrender, at least have a sattvic ego, as a sattvic ego is always ready to sacrifice.

Memory is both a blessing and a hindrance

 

Being forgetful of your nature is the root cause of all problems and suffering in life. But the very remembrance of your nature, which is godliness, brings freedom. 


Here memory is your best friend. The purpose of knowledge is to remind you of your true nature. In the Bhagwad Gita, Arjuna said to Krishna, “My memory is back. Now I have realized my true nature and will do as you say.” 


Memory is a blessing and is your best friend when it helps you realize your true nature. Memory is a hindrance when it does not let you be free of events, pleasant or unpleasant. 


Pleasant events create cravings and competition in the mind and do not allow fresh experiences. Unpleasant events bias perception and create paranoia. 


So, memory is both a blessing and a hindrance depending on whether you remember your nature or whether you are stuck with events in time and space.

Why natural disasters take place

 

From time to time the earth shakes and in its shaking wakes up the man who is in slumber, the man who not only misuses Nature but puts his faith in bricks and mortar. Your true security is in the Self, not in bricks and mortar. Perhaps this is what nature wants to convey to you. Earthquakes, floods and volcanoes all drive home the truth that nothing is permanent and you can find no security in that which is impermanent. Disasters come to you as a shock and wakes you up. 


When such calamities occur, we try to understand their cause so that we can blame someone. Strangely, when you find someone to blame, you feel comfortable, but with natural calamities you cannot blame anyone. They come to you as a shock. With wisdom, shocks can make you grow in leaps and bounds. Without wisdom, a shock can only lead you to negativity and depression. 


Why would nature destroy small innocent children? Nature just does its job. It does not discriminate between young and old.  


Instead of questioning nature, wake up and see the opportunity for seva, or service. See what happened in Gujarat. Hundreds and thousands of people engaged in service activities that would not have happened otherwise. The reconstruction of Gujarat would not have taken place if not for earthquake. Out of the destruction, a freshwater spring has appeared in a region that has been continuously drought prone. 


Wisdom is considering the Earth as your Valentine. Whether it shakes or breaks, it is dear to you. You always see good coming from it. 


The five elements, other than space, create turbulence from time to time. If you depend on them for support, they will shake you and lead you back to space. Finding security in inner space is spirituality.

Solving problems

 

The best solution to a problem is not to have the problem at all. The second best solution is to willingly accept the problem and see it as a challenge. The third best solution is to know that the problem is just a monster under the bed – it is not real. 


The final solution is to know that nature provides you the solution even before giving you the problem. First you met me and then you had a problem! 


There are no bacteria in the winter since herbs to heal you do not grow then. In the spring, the herbs grow first and then the bugs arrive. In the summer, the shade comes before the summer sun gets strong. So, nature takes good care of you. 


What if longing is a problem? Longing ripens you. Do not solve all your problems. Keep at least one of them. You need something to munch on – and life goes on.


Whenever there is a problem, you either deny it saying there is no problem, or you sit down to solve the problem and make it a big issue. Neither of these help. A problem does not disappear when you deny it and it does not get solved when you sit down to solve it. The five steps to solve a problem are:

  • Recognize that it exists. 
  • See it as a small problem and do not say it is big. 
  • If it concerns people, keep in touch with them instead of avoiding them. 
  • Talk less and give time a chance.
  • Get together and celebrate. When you celebrate and put the problem on the back burner, you will see that the problem gets solved in time. 


So, it is wise not to sit down to solve a problem. Many of the meetings to solve problems end up in disaster. If you do not have any problems, you will create problems or you will become a problem yourself! If you have a small problem in your pocket to solve, it will give focus to your mind. It is better to have a problem than to be a problem. 

Relationship between joy and sorrow

 

The inability to experience joy and sorrow is inertia. Experiencing joy and sorrow is a trait of consciousness. 


Being happy in one’s own joy and sad in one’s own sorrow is a trait of animals. Being happy at another’s joy and saddened by another’s sorrow is a trait of humans. 


If you are saddened by another’s sorrow, then sorrow will never come to you. If you are happy at another’s joy, then joy will never leave you. 


Seeing that every relative joy is also a misery is a sign of dispassion. And seeing both joy and sorrow as just a technique is a sign of the wise. 


To consider sorrow mere illusion is divinity. Transcending joy and sorrow and being established in the Self is perfection.


As the late Swami Sharanananda said, “Pray for the strength to serve in joy and to sacrifice in sorrow.”

Reason for war

 

The worst act of reason is war. Every war has a reason, and the reason justifies the war.


Those who engage in war reason it out. But reason is limited. As reason changes, the justification falls apart. All the reasons for every war appear to be justifiable to some limited minds and for a limited time. Hence, war becomes inevitable on this planet.


Only human beings wage war. No other species in creation engages in war or mass destruction, as they have no reason to do so. Animals take their prey and let everything else just be. But mankind, from time immemorial, has engaged in war because man bases his actions on reason.


Man gives a reason to every act of his and justifies it. But as reasons change, his justifications fall apart. Man must transcend reason – only then can he realize Divinity and will not engage in war. Only when people become sensible, rise above hatred and have heightened consciousness, can war be stopped.


The act which is only destructive and inflicts suffering on both oneself and others is terrorism. In such an act human values are lost in the process of achieving a goal.


Some of the factors that lead to terrorism are frustration and desperation in achieving a goal, impulsive action, shortsightedness and confused emotions. Terrorism can also stem from having a non-verifiable concept of heaven and merit, and a childish concept of God where God favors some and is angry with others, undermining the Divine’s omniscience and omnipotence. 


Terrorism induces a psychosis of fear in everyone, and it increases poverty, suffering, and loss of life with no apparent gain. Instead of life-supporting solutions, the terrorist chooses destruction as an answer. If you criticize without giving a solution, know that it comes from the seed of terrorism. 


Although there are certain qualities you can appreciate in a terrorist such as fearlessness, commitment to a goal and sacrifice, you must learn from them things that you should never do – valuing ideas and concepts more than life, having a narrow perspective of life and dishonoring life’s diversity. The remedy for terrorism is to:

  • Inculcate a broader perspective of life. 
  • Value life more than race, religion and nationality. 
  • Provide education in human values – friendliness, compassion, cooperation and upliftment. 
  • Teach methods to release stress and tension. 
  • Cultivate confidence in achieving noble aims by peaceful and nonviolent means.

Weed      out      destructive      tendencies      with      spiritual upliftment. 


Terrorism can be more than physical violence, such as cultural or economic terrorism. The solution for economic violence is to “Think globally, buy locally,” and the solution for cultural violence is to “Broaden your vision, deepen your roots.”


How does one cope with the aftermath of terrorism? With faith and prayer. When disaster happens, anger is inevitable. Take precautions that you do not react improperly. Wisdom is needed and not emotional outbursts. One mistake cannot be corrected by another mistake. Strive to foster multicultural and multi-religious education and spiritual upliftment in every part of the globe, for the world will not be safe if even a small pocket of people are left in ignorance.


Violence and nonviolence do not depend on an act but on the intention behind it. The basis of violence is anger, lust, hatred, jealousy, greed, frustration and aggression. 


A surgeon cuts open a person’s belly; so does a criminal. The action is similar but the surgeon’s intention is to save life and the criminal’s is to destroy it. Violence or non-violence is determined by the attitude and not by the act. 


Even a war can be non-violent if it is devoid of anger, hatred, jealousy, or greed and if its intent is to educate those who cannot be educated in any other way. Even charity can be an act of violence if it takes away self-esteem and inflicts slavery. A war can be an act of compassion if it helps to establish the right perspective.

Conflicted understanding of "conflict"

 

Unfortunate are those who crave for the world. Fortunate are those who crave for the Divine. 


Unwise are those who make you crave for the world. Wise are those who make you crave for the Divine. 


The source of conflict is the notion of “mine” and “yours.” Self-knowledge eases the sense of limited belongingness and resolves this conflict. 


When knowledge dawns in you, no one is a stranger in the whole world. At the same time, you realize that you know very little about even your nearest one! You cannot understand anyone totally for life is a mystery! 


Wake up and see. All these distinctions “Me, Mine, Others” – simply dissolve.


Krishna’s life was full of conflicts and yet he kept smiling and dancing. Dance through the conflicts and contribute to this planet.

(Get) out of control


Many people have a problem letting go of control, causing anxiety, restlessness and soured relationships.


Wake up and see – are you really ever in control? What do you control? Perhaps a tiny part of your waking state! You are not in control when you are sleeping or dreaming. 


You are not in control of the thoughts and emotions coming to you. You may choose to express them or not, but they come to you without your permission. 


Most of the functions of your body are not under your control. Do you think you are in control of all the events in your life, in the world, or in the universe? That is a joke! When you look at things from this angle, you need not be afraid of losing control, because you have none to lose.


Whether you realize it or not, only when you truly relax can you let go of your sense of control. Your identification with being somebody does not let you totally relax and it limits your domain.

Rage against...nothing

 

Rage has no ears, nor does it have vision. It only leads to reaction. And reaction leads to regret. Regret causes frustration. Frustration clouds reason. 


Unreasonable acts provoke rage, starting a vicious cycle. Only self-knowledge and devotion can free you from this vicious cycle. 


In the fire of knowledge, when rage and revenge are offered, the warmth of the blemish-free Self shines forth. This is the true yagna.


Dealing with awkward situations

 

Why do you feel awkward? How do you stop feeling awkward? 


If you have always been the center of attention and are suddenly sidelined, you may feel out of place. Similarly if you have always been on the sidelines and are suddenly pushed to center stage, you may experience restlessness. 


A very busy person with nothing to do, or a laidback person who is faced with responsibilities, may also experience restlessness. If you are accustomed to ordering others around and suddenly have to take orders, or if you usually follow orders and then are made to give them, you may feel out of place. Feeling out of place can block reason and distort logic. 


If the situation you are in is inevitable, tolerate it. If it is avoidable, walk away from it. If you feel that it can expand your abilities, smile through it. 


Love something about an awkward situation. This will increase your comfort zone. When your comfort zone increases, no one will be able to push your buttons and you will become centered and unshakable. Every awkward situation is a test for how deep you are in the knowledge.

Worrying over feelings

 

The head worries and the heart feels. The two cannot function at the same time; when your feelings dominate, worry dissolves. 


If you worry a lot, your feelings die and you become stuck in your head. Worrying makes your mind and heart inert and dull; it steals your energy and prevents you from thinking clearly. Worries entangle you; they trap you in a cage. Worries are uncertain since they are about the future. 


When you feel, you do not worry. Feelings are like flowers they come up, they blossom, and they die. Feelings rise, they fall and then disappear. When your feelings are expressed, you are relieved. When you become angry, you express your anger and the next moment you feel fine. Or when you are upset, you cry, and you get over it. Feelings last for some short time and then they drop away but worry eats at you much longer and eventually consumes you. 


Feelings make you spontaneous. Children feel, so they are spontaneous, but adults put brakes on their feelings and start worrying. Worry obstructs action, while feelings propel action. Worrying about negative feelings is a blessing because it puts brakes on those feelings, preventing you from acting on them. But we usually do not worry about positive feelings. Though, when you think you are feeling too much, then you often start worrying about your feelings.


Offering your worries is prayer and prayer moves you in feelings.

The fine art of experiencing satisfaction


The mind lives on “more.” Misery starts with “wanting more and more.” Misery makes you dense and keeps you on the surface level of life.


The Higher Self is subtle. To move from dense matter to the subtle, you go through the finest level of creation—the atom.


To overcome aversion, hatred, jealousy, cravings, or entanglements, you have to go to the atom, which means accepting a teeny tiny bit of all this creation. 


It may be difficult to accept something you don’t like, but you can definitely accept a tiny bit of it—an atom. This acceptance has to be done in a meditative state. The moment you accept that one atom, you see change happen.


This process can also help you feel more satisfied with those things you like in life. For example, suppose you love someone, you want more and more of them, yet there is no fulfillment. When you take an atom, you’re saying that just at a glance, a word, or a moment will be good enough. When you're satisfied with that, it’s enough to bring a shift, and there is fulfillment. Take just one atom of that person, and that's enough to bring fulfillment to you.


Though the river is vast, a little sip quenches your thirst. Though Earth has so much food, just a little bite satisfies your hunger. All that you need are tiny bits. Accept a tiny bit of everything in life — that will bring you fulfillment.


Tonight, go to bed feeling that you are satisfied, taking a tiny part of Divinity with you. Satisfaction comes from the subtle and not from “more and more.”


Know how good you are at handling blame

 

When someone blames you, you feel a heavy load, and when you talk about it, the unpleasant feeling is spread to all around you. At that moment wake up and see you are the Being and nothing can touch you. This is all just a drama which you have created. You have gone through this over and over again. All the accusations you face in your life are your own creation. Knowing this, you will feel free and light. 


Taking responsibility for all the experiences in life makes you powerful and will put an end to grumbling, retribution, explanations and a host of other negative tendencies. Taking full responsibility makes you free. 


When someone blames you, directly or indirectly, what do you do? 

  • Do you register it in your mind and get emotionally upset? 
  • Do you dismiss it altogether without taking a lesson from it? 
  • Do you talk about it with people, wasting everyone’s time? 
  • Do you pity yourself and blame your shortcomings? 
  • Do you blame the other person? 
  • Do you generalize and eternalize the problem?

When these happen, you are not living up to this knowledge. You need to do the Art of Living introductory course at least six times and read all the weekly knowledge. 


However, if you: 

  • Laugh at it and not even take notice, 
  • Treat it as a non-event, not even worth talking about or taking any action, 
  • Treat opinions and accusations as passing clouds and more of an entertainment, 
  • Discourage dwelling on unpleasant and negative moments, 
  • Are non-judgmental and absolutely unshaken in your space of love, 
  • Remain centered and calm, and do not take pride in your growth or wisdom, 
Then you are a source of pride to your tutor – the Master. 

Overcoming anxiety

 

Nature has built a little fear into all living beings. This fear makes life defend itself, protect itself. Like salt in food, a little fear is essential for people to be righteous. Fear affects you in the following ways:

  • Fear of hurting someone makes you more conscious. 
  • Fear of failure makes you more keen and dynamic. 
  • Fear moves you from carelessness to taking care. 
  • Fear moves you from being insensitive to being sensitive. 
  • Fear moves you from dullness to alertness. 


Total lack of fear may lead to destructive tendencies – a distorted ego knows no fear. Nor does one with expanded consciousness. While the ego dismisses fear and acts in a destructive manner, the wise one acknowledges fear and takes refuge in the Divine. 


When you are in love, when you are surrendered, there is no fear. Ego, too, knows no fear. But there is a difference, like the difference between heaven and earth – between these two types of fearless states.


Fear makes you righteous; fear brings you close to surrender; fear keeps you on the path; fear keeps you from being destructive. Peace and law are maintained on the planet because of fear. 


A newborn child knows no fear – the baby relies totally on its mother. When a child, a kitten, or a bird start becoming independent, they experience fear and this makes them run back to their mothers. This is inbuilt by nature to sustain life. So, the purpose of fear is to bring you back to the source.


At the present time, many are anxious about how to deal with their anxiety. Here are some of the ways you can manage anxiety:

  • Sing, dance and celebrate. The very intention to celebrate will pull you to a more harmonious state. 
  • Think about what you can do for others rather than thinking about yourself. Get energized through seva (service). 
  • Have an attitude of sacrifice. 
  • Remind yourself that you are committed to a greater goal.
  • Practice yoga, breathing and meditation. 
  • Know the impermanence of the world. 
  • Have faith in and surrender to the Divine. Know that there is a supreme power who loves you, is behind you and a accepts you totally. Feeling secure comes with this sense of belongingness. 
  • Be courageous and invoke the lion within you. 
  • Be unpredictable for a while. Anxiety always relates to some anticipated action so do something completely irrelevant and unpredictable. 
  • Be ready to face the worst. This will leave you with stability in your mind. 
  • Remember a similar situation in the past when you were able to overcome your anxiety.

Ambition vs. Self-confidence

 

 

Ambition indicates a lack of self-confidence. When you know you can achieve something easily, you will not be ambitious; you will simply be confident about it. Your ambition indicates challenge and uncertainty, which is contrary to self-confidence. 


So one who has total self-confidence cannot be ambitious, nor can a person who totally lacks confidence. For ambition to be present, you must have a small amount of confidence and total ignorance of the Self. It is nearly impossible to have total confidence without self-knowledge.


People take pride in being ambitious. The wise man will only smile at them. You can never be ambitious about something you know you can achieve effortlessly. You can only be ambitious about something that requires effort, that poses a challenge, and that you cannot be certain you will achieve. 


Ambition takes away the joy of the moment. With the knowledge of the Self, there is nothing left to achieve for the entire nature of existence is mere play and display of your own consciousness. With self-knowledge nothing is challenging to you, nor do you need to make an effort. Nature is ready to fulfill your intentions even before they arise, giving you no chance to crave or desire. Nature does not allow the wise to have desires or ambition, nor does it allow the unwise to fulfill their desires or ambitions, or to discard them.

Why are you hungry for power?

 

Why do people hunger for power? 


People crave power because they want attention and recognition. Power is a means, just like money. Their passion is for the goal, i.e. attention and recognition. People who see power or money as an end in itself do not live, they simply exist.


If you do not realize that you are the power – that you are enlightened – then you crave power. 


If you do not have talents, love, or passion, or if you are not innocent and childlike, then you will crave attention and recognition. Just as some politicians, you will crave power. If you have no talents and you are not contributing substantially to society such as an artist, a scientist, an Art of Living teacher, or a volunteer – then you will hunger for power.


If you do not have a love or a passion to help transform society, then you will hunger for power. If you are not innocent and childlike and do not have a sense of belongingness with the whole world, then you will hunger for power. True power is the power of the spirit. Real confidence, strength and happiness all spring from the spirit. The one who knows this and has this will not crave power at all.

Breaking the habit

 

Your inability to do something, such as break a habit, can cause a pinch. When you are deeply pained by something, then that will rid you of that habit. If you are pained by your shortcomings, then you are a sadhak (spiritual seeker). Pain pushes you out of addiction.


If you observe your behavior, you will notice that you procrastinate when doing something good but hurry when it comes to doing something bad. For example, if you are angry, you want to express it immediately. Do you know why? Because virtues are your very nature and will never leave you while your vices are not your nature and they will leave you. Negative tendencies are transient and will leave you if you do not act on them immediately. Frustration and crying cannot stay long, especially with the same intensity. Perhaps you are concerned that your vices will leave you if you do not act on them!


It is wise to postpone acting on vices, for they will not stay, and to act immediately to do good. Otherwise, you will continue to postpone doing good for the next few lifetimes!

India at war

 

A war has started but don't worry. It's a matter of time. It's important that you meditate twice a day for these coming days. Your meditation is not just for you. It affects the subtle and this influences many things and cools things down. It also influences the minds of decision makers. So, meditate every day twice. 

Making sense of one senses

 

Your body is like a washing machine, your mind is like your clothing, each lifetime is like one washing cycle, pure water is like love, and knowledge is the detergent. 


The mind enters the body to get cleansed and purified. But if instead of detergent you use dirt, then you have dirty clothes, dirtier than before. You will have to continue putting clothes in the washing machine to get them cleaned. And the process repeats again and again. 


Similarly, you will have many more births until you stop repeating the mistakes that you have made.


Fights can only happen among equals. When you fight with someone, you make that person your equal. But in reality there is no one at par with you. When you keep people either above you or below you, there is no fight. When people are above you, you respect them. When they are below you, you love them and feel compassionate.


Either submission or compassion can quickly stop a fight. This is something to consider when you are tired of fighting. But when you are well rested, just fight and have fun. 


The same is true of the mind. When the mind is caught up in the senses or thinks it is equal to the senses, there is constant conflict. But when the mind is smaller than the senses, as in animals, there is no conflict. 


And when the mind realizes that it is bigger than the senses, again there is no conflict. When the mind transcends the senses, it comes back to its true nature, which is innocence – “in no sense.” Does this make sense?

Who is making a mistake?

 

Do not tell a person about a mistake they know that they made. What is the use of pointing out a mistake that one knows one has committed? By doing this, you will only make that person feel more guilty, defensive, or resentful and this only creates more distance. 


And do not point out a person’s mistake if they are aware of it but does not want you to know about it. Often people know their mistakes, but they do not want you to point them out. You should only point out a person’s mistake if they are not aware of it and wants to know about it. 


Think about the usefulness of your comments. Before pointing out a person’s mistake, see whether your comments will help to improve the situation, foster love, or bring harmony. A magnanimous person does not point out the mistakes of others and make them feel guilty. Instead, they correct others’ mistakes with compassion and care, not through words but through their attitude.


Often, in establishing your righteousness, you are insensitive to the feelings of others. When someone is hurt, arguing with them and establishing your righteousness will be in vain. By simply saying “I’m sorry,” you can uplift the other person and take away the bitterness. In many situations saying “I’m sorry” is better than establishing your righteousness – it can avert much unpleasantness.


Sorry – this one word of five letters, when said sincerely, can remove anger, guilt, hatred and distance. Many people feel pride in hearing “I’m sorry” from others – it boosts their ego. 


But when you say “I’m sorry” to a wise man, it evokes compassion at your ignorance. And when you say “I’m sorry” to your Guru, he will get angry and say, “Go! Listen to Ashtavakra!” Your apology indicates doer-ship – you feel that you have made a mistake. 


A mistake is part of an unconscious mind. An unconscious mind cannot do right while a conscious mind can do no wrong. The mind that makes the mistake and the mind that realizes the mistake – the mind that says “I’m sorry” – are entirely different, aren’t they? The mind that apologizes cannot be an unconscious mind. Therefore, sincerely saying “I’m sorry” is a big mistake. Did you get it or are you confused? If you did not get it, do not feel sorry or...you can feel sorry! How strange – truth is paradoxical!

Art of learning

 

Learning is inevitable. By doing things right you learn and by doing things wrong you also learn. From every situation, from everybody, you learn either what to do or what not to do. Either by making mistakes or by doing things correctly, you can only learn. 


Learning is inevitable. It is only when you sleep that you do not learn. And if you are asleep in your life, there is neither pain nor pleasure nor learning. Most people are in such deep slumber. That is why many people do not even make an effort to get out of their pain.

What it means to "love" someone


What is love? When love glows, it is bliss When it flows, it is compassion When it blows, it is anger. When it ferments, it is jealousy. When it is all ‘‘no’s,” it is hatred. When it acts, it is perfection. When love knows, it is me.

To love someone you do not like, means you have learned a lesson in life. 

To love someone who blames you for no reason shows that you have learned the art of living.



Silence is the answer you need

 

Some questions can only be answered in silence. Silence is the goal of all answers. If an answer does not silence the mind, it is no answer. 


Thoughts are not the goal in themselves. Their goal is silence. When you ask the question “Who am I?” You get no answer, there is only silence. That is the real answer. Your soul is solidified silence and this solidified silence is wisdom, knowledge. 


The easy way to silence thoughts is to arouse feelings, for only through feelings will peace, joy and love dawn. They are all your very nature. 


To the question “Who am I?” the only relevant answer is silence. You need to discard all answers in words, including “I’m nothing” or “I’m the cosmic self” or “I’m the self”. Just remain with the question “Who am I?” All other answers are just thoughts and thoughts can never be complete. Only silence is complete. 

Experiencing infinity

 

Time and space are infinite. Grains of sand are countless. Atoms in the universe are innumerable, as are the stars and the galaxies. The same is true with life on this planet. 


There is neither a beginning nor an end because everything is spherical. A sphere has no beginning and no end, no goal or direction. Truth has no direction, no goal. Truth itself is the goal, and truth is infinite. 


Feeling and experiencing infinity within this finite body, living in timelessness within the time span of life, uncovering bliss within misery, this is what you are here for. When wisdom dawns, it gives rise to celebration. But in celebration you may lose your focus or awareness. The ancient rishis knew this, so to maintain awareness amidst the gaiety of celebration, they brought sacredness and puja to every event. 

Finding the abode of the Divine

 

Ra in Sanskrit means that which is radiant and ma means myself. That which shines forth within me is Rama. That which is radiant in every particle of the being is Rama


Lord Rama was born to Dasharatha and Kaushalya. Dasharatha means ‘the ten-charioted one’ in Sanskrit. It signifies the five sense organs and the five organs of action. Kaushalya is Sanskrit for ‘skilled’. The skillful driver of the ten chariots can give birth to Rama. When the five sense organs and the five organs of action are used skillfully, radiance is born within. Rama was born in Ayodhya, which in Sanskrit means “the place where no war can happen”. When there is no conflict in our mind, then radiance can dawn. 


Lakshmana, the brother of Rama, was born of Sumitra, the good friend. When the five sense organs and five organs of action are cooperating within you, awareness is born. Often we try to look within for radiance. Just realise that you are radiant. 


Often people say, “Be the same outside as you are inside”. But I ask you, how is this possible? Inside you are a vast ocean, an infinite sky. Outside you are finite – just a small limited form, a normal stupid person. All that you are inside the love, the beauty, the compassion, the Divinity, does not show up fully outside. What shows outside is only the crust of behaviours. Ask yourself, am I really my behavioural patterns? Am I really this limited body-mind complex? No. You are not the same inside as outside. 


Do not mistake the outer crust for what you are inside. And do not show your infinite lordship outside, for Divinity is not easily understood. Let there be some mystery. When knowledge is lodged in you as wisdom, it will never leave you. Wisdom lodges itself in your heart. Make the divine your valentine, your sweet beloved. This is the first thing to do and the last thing to do. Keep your heart in a safe place, it is too delicate. Events and small things make strong impressions on it. You cannot find a better place than the divine to keep your heart safe and your mind safe. 


When you keep your heart in the divine, moving time and events will not be able to touch it, they will not create a scar. A precious stone needs a gold or silver setting around it to hold it. Wisdom and knowledge are the setting around the heart that will hold it in the divine. Make the divine your valentine. Just be and know that you are beloved. That is beloved. Make your home God’s home and there will be light, love and abundance. Make your body God’s abode and there will be peace and bliss. Feel your mind is a toy of God and you will watch and enjoy all its games. See this world as a play and as a display of God Himself and you will repose in the non-dual self.


Blessings come to you in many forms. If you are generous, blessing comes to you as abundance. If you are hard-working, blessing comes to you as happiness. If you are lazy, blessing comes to you as hard work. If you are pleasure-loving, blessing comes to you as dispassion. If you are dispassionate, blessing comes to you as knowledge of the Self.

What is the nature of consciousness?


Consciousness moving on the surface of the body is stimulus, which causes pleasure. When consciousness shrinks then pain and suffering arise. Suffering is the shrinking or contraction of consciousness. When consciousness moves through the body in limited channels, pleasure is experienced. Repeated enjoyment of stimuli causes inertia and dullness. Often cooks do not enjoy their own food. The same piece of music heard over and over again loses its charm. People in the sex industry do not enjoy sex.


If stimuli are observed, then consciousness expands and becomes peace. With awareness the stimuli lose their significance, whether they exist or not makes no difference. When the sun is shining, it makes no difference if the candle is lit or not. To realise that all pleasures are just stimuli and that you are more than the stimuli brings freedom. Pain is nothing but consciousness wanting to expand and to become free. Freedom is liberation from the craving of stimuli. Pain is not a permanent state.


Like the insomniac who has forgotten how to sleep, most of us have forgotten how to be at peace and in bliss. Just as the natural tendency of water is to flow downward, and the natural tendency of air is not to be under pressure, the natural tendency of consciousness is to expand and be at peace.


Finding one's identity

 

You have many faces, only you do not face them. From time to time in different phases, different faces appear. When you come face to face with your faces then conflicts, confusion and chaos arise in you. As you come close to your being, all the faces melt and leave you as the space that you are. 


At the gross level, you identify yourself as someone. As you move to more subtle levels, you may identify yourself as some energy or as an incarnation of some angel, saint or prophet. When you go beyond even this identity, you are whole, holy, Brahman Purna Brahman Narayana.


Shiva is called Chandrashekhara, which means “that mind which is in Shiva and is always above the peak”. 


Buddha is not on the peak, rather the peak is beneath Buddha. One who goes up to the peak comes down, but the peak seeks the one who is stationed higher, in the inner space. People run after parties and celebrations, but for the one who does not run after them, parties and celebrations follow him wherever he goes. If you run after parties, loneliness comes to you. If you are in the solitude of the self, parties surround you. 


Three kinds of understanding

 

Your mind does not belong to you. Don’t blame it. Let the big Self, embrace it. Effort is the key in the relative, effortlessness is the key to the absolute.


There are three kinds of understanding, intellectual understanding, experiential understanding and existential realisation. Intellectual understanding says “yes”, it agrees. Experiential understanding feels, it's obvious. Existential realisation is irrefutable, it becomes your very nature. 


If you have only an intellectual understanding, you will think you know everything. Most theologians are in this category. You can know intellectually that you are hollow and empty but sitting and feeling you are hollow and empty is totally different. All that you hear will simply remain a jumble of words if there is no experiential understanding, which is more on the feeling level. When you have an experience, you want to understand more about it and so you become a seeker. 


Existential realisation contains within it both experiential and intellectual understanding and yet it is beyond both of these. How do you achieve existential realisation? There is no way to achieve it. When the fruit becomes ripe, it falls.


What is peace? It is an undivided mind.