Handling negativity

 

Negativity cannot remain without a support. Positivity and happiness can exist without any reason. 

The mind goes on trying to find a support for its negativity. It looks for a hook on which to hang its negativity, if not this person, then that thing or that person. This perpetuates maya. The creeping vine of negativity needs support in order to grow. But negativity or aversion for even one person can guarantee a one-way ticket to hell, you need nothing else.

All negativity is an indicator for you to move to your centre and to broaden your vision to cosmic intelligence. Instead of focusing your attention on a support for your negativity, look at the seed of the negativity. 

With meditation, silence and Sudarshan Kriya, the source of negativity is nipped at the root.

Don't fight blame

 

When you follow fun, misery follows you. When you follow knowledge, fun follows you.

When a worldly man is miserable, he blames the people around him, the system and the world in general. When a seeker is miserable, he blames the world, but in addition he blames the path, the knowledge and himself. It is better not to be a seeker so that you blame less. But then a seeker, a sadhak, also enjoys everything much more. There is more love in life and more pain. 

When there is more joy, the contrast is greater. A certain level of maturity is needed to see things as they are and not blame the path, the self and the world. If one jumps across this chasm of blame and misery, then there is no fall. It is like a quantum leap. 

The Divine does not test you. Testing is part of ignorance. Who is it that will put something to a test? Only one who does not know something. God knows your capacity, so why should He have to test you? Then, why is there misery? It is for titiksha, forbearance in you. And forbearance can be increased by prayerful surrender and by things that vigorously challenge your patience.

When someone blames you, what do you usually do? You blame them back or you set up some resistance in yourself. How do you feel when someone blames you? Hurt, unhappy, sad, heavy? This is all because you are resisting. What you resist, persists. You get hurt because you resist the blame. Know that when someone blames you, they take away some negative karma from you. 

If you understand this, you will only feel happy about it. If you resist when someone blames you, you are not allowing them to take away the negative karma. Even if you don’t react outwardly, you may still be resisting inside. Actually, it’s fine to resist outside, but inside don’t resist. You will feel immediately lighter. You can feel happy - Oh, good, somebody is blaming me and taking some of my negative karma.

The ignorant person says, “Don’t blame me” because it hurts him. An enlightened person also says, “Don’t blame me”. Do you know why? Because it might hurt you. You can tell someone not to blame you out of anger or out of compassion.