How to deal with blame


There is a very beautiful poem in Kannada that says:

“What do you say to a person who is scared of noise but has built his house in the market?

What do say to a person who has built a home on the seashore and hates waves?

What do you say to a person who has built a home in the forest and is scared of animals?”

In the same way, what do you tell a person who lives in society and is scared of accusations, blames and praises? People blame and they say things, what can you do? Educate and ignore.

Even when you have done nothing wrong still people become your enemies. How many of you have experienced this? You did not do any harm to them but they have become your enemies. Similarly, you have not done any big favors for some people but they have become your friends, isn’t it?! Becoming a friend or an enemy works on some other special law and that is Karma.

With Karma you cannot have a reasoning or explanation for certain happenings. That is just how it is. So don’t worry if people blame you for things that you have not done. Don’t get disturbed.

It is easy to say don’t get disturbed. You do get disturbed, but at that time this wisdom will help you – ’It is some strange Karma, let it be there. So what, what can we do? That is the nature of the world.’

In this way you should make yourself dispassionate. One who is dispassionate always remains joyful.

’Kasya Sukham Na Karoti Viragah’ – There is no pleasure greater than a state of mind that does not seek pleasure.