Dealing with awkward situations

 

Why do you feel awkward? How do you stop feeling awkward? 

If you have always been the center of attention and are suddenly sidelined, you may feel out of place. Similarly if you have always been on the sidelines and are suddenly pushed to center stage, you may experience restlessness. 

A very busy person with nothing to do, or a laidback person who is faced with responsibilities, may also experience restlessness. If you are accustomed to ordering others around and suddenly have to take orders, or if you usually follow orders and then are made to give them, you may feel out of place. Feeling out of place can block reason and distort logic. 

If the situation you are in is inevitable, tolerate it. If it is avoidable, walk away from it. If you feel that it can expand your abilities, smile through it. 

Love something about an awkward situation. This will increase your comfort zone. When your comfort zone increases, no one will be able to push your buttons and you will become centered and unshakable. Every awkward situation is a test for how deep you are in the knowledge.

Worrying over feelings

 

The head worries and the heart feels. The two cannot function at the same time; when your feelings dominate, worry dissolves. 

If you worry a lot, your feelings die and you become stuck in your head. Worrying makes your mind and heart inert and dull; it steals your energy and prevents you from thinking clearly. Worries entangle you; they trap you in a cage. Worries are uncertain since they are about the future. 

When you feel, you do not worry. Feelings are like flowers they come up, they blossom, and they die. Feelings rise, they fall and then disappear. When your feelings are expressed, you are relieved. When you become angry, you express your anger and the next moment you feel fine. Or when you are upset, you cry, and you get over it. Feelings last for some short time and then they drop away but worry eats at you much longer and eventually consumes you. 

Feelings make you spontaneous. Children feel, so they are spontaneous, but adults put brakes on their feelings and start worrying. Worry obstructs action, while feelings propel action. Worrying about negative feelings is a blessing because it puts brakes on those feelings, preventing you from acting on them. But we usually do not worry about positive feelings. Though, when you think you are feeling too much, then you often start worrying about your feelings.

Offering your worries is prayer and prayer moves you in feelings.