How to let go of attachment


Why do you want to get rid of attachment? 

It is because it gives you pain. If it did not bring you pain, you would never think of getting rid of attachment. Attachment gives pain because of ignorance.
Do not try to get out of attachment. Instead, I would say, learn to be centered. Expand your understanding of life and of this creation. Then you will see that you do not need to make an effort to get rid of attachment. It will automatically go away.
Young children are so attached to cotton candy. If you keep a sweet before them, they just want to grab and eat it. But when they grow older, the craving for sweets and toys drop off by itself. They did not have to make an effort to get detached from that. 

Detachment is a very natural happening.

When maturity blossoms in you, an expansion begins to dawn within you; that is when you stop getting stuck and entangled in small petty things in life.
Otherwise, earlier if someone ill-treated or insulted you, you would get so hurt and keep a grudge in your heart for a long time, sometimes even for months at a time. You would tell yourself, ‘I am never going to forget how that person treated me’. Why do you want to harm yourself with such thoughts? We do this so often, and many time, we feel proud about keeping a grudge in our mind. This is foolishness.
You should observe and accept that different people have different ways of talking, different behaviors, and different approaches to doing things and expressing themselves. Do not think that because of this they do not have any love in their heart. It is not so at all. It is just that you may not be able to see it, or that they may not be able to express it in a proper way.
Just look at things from the other’s perspective.

It's all You, it's all You, it's all You


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In the world, everything reminds us of something that is not clear, something that is beyond. A hand unseen is behind this creation, and every pair of eyes is looking towards that hand which is not seen. Wherever one looks, one is looking for that hand which is behind and unseen. You look at a flower and appreciate the flower and behind the flower, there’s that beauty, that truth which could bring this beauty. If this flower does not remind you of the eternal beauty, of the eternal truth, then it has not fulfilled its purpose. So behind every activity, pleasant, unpleasant, chaotic, harmonious, is one Divinity.

This entire creation is rejoicing you, because it is a play. It is a game. It’s not a serious something that is judged and punished. The Divine does not intend to put you into suffering. There is no such suffering. Every pain that you undergo in this process is for the higher growth. A seed undergoes pain to sprout. And a sprout goes through pain to become bigger.

If you see in those terms, with every phase, the previous phase has to be dissolved. One phase dissolves to give space to another. And it is always evolutionary. So there is no reverting back, reversing. It is evolutionary. It can stop for a while, but again it continues.

Even in the world, whatever you may be doing, with whomsoever you may be dealing with, see them all as part of this one whole. See the love deep inside them. You may not like somebody’s action, what they do, but look into the Divine love that is deep inside them. It’s not the action. It is the state of your Being. The intention deep inside you from which you act is what makes a difference.