With whom do you feel really comfortable and at ease? With someone who does not question your love, someone who takes for granted that you love them. Isn’t it?
When someone doubts your love and you constantly have to prove your love, it becomes a heavy load on your head. They start questioning you and demanding explanations for all your actions. To explain everything you do is a burden. Your nature is to shed the burden because you don’t feel comfortable.
When you question the reason behind someone’s action, you are asking for justification for yourself. You create a distance when you ask for justification. Your whole intention is to come close, but instead you create a distance.
You are the Eternal Witness. You are as much a witness to your own actions as you are to someone else’s. When someone asks you for an explanation for your actions, they are speaking from doership and imposing that doership on you. This brings you discomfort.
Neither demand an explanation, nor give an explanation.
If somebody is just there with you, like a part of you, they don’t question you. They are like your arm. There is a closeness and unity that goes beyond all demands and questions.
Only speak Knowledge. Don't repeat anything that someone tells you or opinions about anyone that someone states -- “That so-and-so said such-and-such about you.”
If someone comes to tell you such things, discourage them. Don't believe it.
If someone blames you directly, know that they are taking away your bad karma, and let it go. Don't believe in it, and if you're one of the Guru's close ones, you will take all of the blame of the world with a smile.
Conflict is the nature of the world; comfort is the nature of the self. Amidst conflict seek comfort.
If you are one of the Guru's close ones, you do both simultaneously.
Trying to end a conflict, prolongs it. Face the conflict by seeking the comfort of the Self.
God is alive in the world, and has been putting up with all the ongoing conflicts throughout the ages. If God can put up with all the conflicts, you can too. The moment you agree to be with the conflict, the conflict disappears.
People who love peace do not want to fight, and those who fight do not love peace. Those who want peace want to run away.
The whole message of the Bhagwad Gita is to be peaceful yourself and then fight. Krishna tells Arjuna to fight but be in peace at the same time. Does this ring a bell?
In the world, you resolve one conflict and another one comes up. For example, Russia is solved and then Bosnia arises. You make one better, and then another starts up. Your body gets a cold, then you get better; then your back hurts, then it gets better. Your body gets better, and then the mind goes. The world runs like this, isn't it?
Without any intention, misunderstandings happen. It's not up to you to try to resolve them. Ignore them and be alive.