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How to handle desires? - Conversation between Krishna and Arjuna (Bhagavad Gita)
Arjuna asked Krishna,
Sthita-prajanas (2.55): What are the signs of a centered, stable personality?
Then Krishna explained: prajahati yada Kaman, sarvan partha mano-gatan, atmany evatmana tustah, sthita-prajanas tadocyate (2.55). The one who has overcome all desires, prajahati yada (2.55). One who just drops all desires, sarvan partha mano-gatan (2.55).
It’s natural that the mind harbors desires. Desires don’t ask your permission, they just drop in and they stay. When they drop in and stay, that’s when they create trouble for you. When they drop in, you see them off. Prajahati yada Kaman, sarvan partha mano-gatan (2.55). If desires don’t come at all, there is nothing for you to get rid of. You can see them off. In this verse, Krishna clearly said how to say goodbye to the desires, which keep arising in your mind. They have to come, so they come and you say goodbye to them.
One who is satisfied, content with oneself, he is the one who is centered, who is enlightened. One who is not hanging onto desires and crying over them, just takes them as they come, and says, “Okay, fine, goodbye.” That any desire shouldn’t arise in life is also another desire. You can go on that trip, “Oh, I want to get rid of all the desires!” Do you know what the ancient saints and Gurus used to say? “When sunlight comes, a candle has no meaning.” You don’t have to blow out the candle, just bring it into the sunlight; the candle will lose its significance by itself. Similarly, if you have a greater vision in the mind, the small desires will lose their significance. When they lose their significance, it’s as good as you saying goodbye to them.
See, we don’t desire for the Highest in our life. What we really desire is – make a phone call to somebody or correcting some misunderstanding or we turn some proper understanding into a misunderstanding. This is all that we are engaged in. All that our thoughts hover around are really unimportant, insignificant things but they appear very big. This is what is called Maya – illusion. How to get over these things? It is a skill. Prajahati yada Kaman, sarvan partha mano-gatan, atmany evatmana tustah, sthita-Prajña tadocyate (2.55).