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Making relationships work
You are right for your partner when you can adjust. Relationship means adjustment, it is giving.
You give what you can to your partner and wait for them to give back to you. If you are demanding from the others, the relationship is not going to last long.
Demand destroys love. Love is always about giving. Known that you have come here (on the planet) to only give love and demand love from anybody. Demand and blame destroy relationships.
Just imagine yourself in their situation. How would you feel if someone doubts your love for them, and you have to make an extra effort to make them believe that you love them? Is it not a burden?
Learn to praise your partner and uplift a situation instead of blaming and finding fault. Uplifting your partner should be your commitment . Then you are the right person for anybody, and everybody will love you when you don’t hurt them intentionally.
Be open to correction and changes, and have the patience to listen to criticism.
You have to be patient to take criticism.
See your partner beyond his or her words and actions.
When someone comes home after a long tiring day at work, it is normal for them to feel exhausted and frustrated. So you should understand their situation and give them the space/freedom to express their genuine feelings of frustrations, anger etc. When someone is in labor pain, and if you say, ‘Don’t deliver, keep it, keep it, keep the baby inside.’ What can they do? How long can they keep it inside? Somewhere they have to explode. You should allow them to express and let go of all their stress that they have carried all the day.
Understand why your partner is upset or unhappy then your relationship will work.
If you are understanding, you will allow them to tell you everything that happened and you can uplift them! But if you expect them not to tell anything and be nice to you 24/7 and find fault with them all the time, then relationships do not work!