With whom do you feel really comfortable and at ease?
With someone who does not question your love, someone who takes for granted that you love them. Isn’t it?
When someone doubts your love and you constantly have to prove it, this becomes a heavy load on your head. They start questioning you and demanding explanations for all your actions. To explain everything you do is a burden. Your nature is to shed the burden because you don’t feel comfortable.
When you question the reason behind someone’s action, you are asking for justice for yourself. You create a distance when you ask for justice. Your whole intention is to come close, but instead you create a distance.
You are the Eternal Witness. You are as much a witness to your own actions as you are to someone else’s. When someone asks you for an explanation for your actions, they are speaking from doer ship and imposing that doer ship on you. This brings you discomfort.
Neither demand an explanation, nor give an explanation.
If somebody is just there with you, like a part of you, they don’t question you. They are like your arm. There is a closeness and unity that goes beyond all demands and questions.
© The Art of Living Foundation