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Belongingness and Obligations
Belongingness can bring about a host of negative emotions like demand, jealousy, lack of awareness and lack of gratitude. Just look into your own life, you feel more grateful to strangers than the people who “belong” to you. Belongingness reduces gratefulness, awareness; and gives rise to demands which destroy love.
This is the biggest problem in relationships. People are nice to strangers and give more attention to them. With a sense of belongingness comes carefreeness and lack of attention.
Belongingness can make you insensitive, dull, and take away the charm in life! Anyway, who belongs to whom in this world? Here you are a stranger and everyone is a stranger to you. Blessed are those who feel they are strangers. You feel more obliged to a stranger than the person who belongs to you. An obligation is very good to keep a check on your ego. It makes you humble. There is no greater antidote to ego than humility. Being humble is the beginning of all virtues.
People have such resistance for obligations. They do not realize that they are always under obligations, whether giving or taking! Dull people think that one is obliged only when one takes. The wise know that even when one is giving one is under obligations, as the person has accepted what one gives. So whether you give or take you are under obligations. And if someone does not give or take, you are still under obligation! For they are freeing you from visible obligations!
That is to say, you are obliged to all those who do not make you obliged! Got it?
Life renews itself every time by making you a stranger in this old and familiar world. You are simply loaded with obligations and you are a total stranger in this world every moment!